The Ultimate Guide to Dating Styles and Ideal Types by SBTI

The Beginning of Dating Starts with Knowing Yourself First

There is no perfect person in the world, but a 'Soulmate who perfectly matches me' can certainly exist. If you feel intensely attracted to a specific person among countless encounters and blind dates, or conversely, if you inexplicably don't feel drawn to someone despite their excellent specs and appearance, it is precisely because of the 'chemistry of personality and values'.

For a successful relationship, before exploring the other person, you must figure out 'what position I take in dating' and 'what kind of person I feel psychological comfort with when they fill my deficiencies'. The SBTI 15-dimensional personality indicator provides the most scientific and clear answer to your dating patterns.

My Dating Style and Date Patterns Viewed Through Inclination Axes

The most powerful factors that determine an individual's dating pattern and preferred dating style are the introversion/extroversion spectrum and the emotional/rational system that perceives and judges the world.

1. Dating and Affection Expression Methods of Extroverts (E) vs Introverts (I)

The energy of an Extrovert dater is directed outward. They explosively grow affection while exploring new hot places with their lover, enjoying double dates with acquaintances, and sharing thrilling outdoor activities. Without brakes on emotional expression, they do not hesitate to show affection on the streets and say 'I love you' on a daily basis.

On the other hand, an Introvert dater desires deep and quiet emotional communion just between the two of them rather than external stimulation. Rather than noisy and crowded hot places, they most prefer to deeply share each other's daily lives and values while watching Netflix in a familiar and quiet regular cafe or a comfortable home. For them, the best date is 'a high-density time where only the two of them can focus entirely on each other'.

2. Daily Dating Life of Realistic/Systematic Type (S/J) vs Intuitive/Flexible Type (N/P)

A lover of the realistic and thorough planning type perfectly plans the route of a good restaurant, reservation time, and parking lot location from a few days before the date. They prepare thoroughly as if organizing their lover's birthday or anniversary in Excel, providing stable and reliable love.

On the other hand, a lover of the intuitive and flexible spontaneous type presents a thrilling surprise to a stereotyped daily life, saying, "Do you want to go see the ocean right now?" Even if plans go awry, they don't get stressed and show the wit to enjoy Plan B, always making dating a non-boring adventure.

What Kind of Person am I Fiercely Attracted To? (Psychology of Ideal Types)

Psychologically, we usually look for ideal types in two opposing patterns. Similarity and Complementarity. Who would make you happier, someone similar to you or someone opposite? SBTI big data shows an interesting conclusion.

For Core Values, a 'Similar Person' is Overwhelmingly Advantageous

Deep-rooted values or beliefs such as moral standards, religious notions, dedication to family, and the value of consumption (where to spend money) will allow a relationship to be maintained for a long time without breaking down when you meet a person similar to you. If this part is completely opposite, you will experience hellish stress due to clashes of values in every moment.

For Daily Attitudes and Problem Solving, an 'Opposite Person' Creates the Best Synergy

However, lifestyles for living daily life or problem-solving methods (introverted/extroverted, planned/flexible) create tremendous synergy when you meet a person of the opposite disposition who can perfectly complement each other's deficiencies.

For example, when an 'extreme planning type' who tends to get tired by meticulously taking care of everything meets a somewhat clumsy but optimistic 'extreme flexible type', they fill each other's lack of 'stability' and 'freedom' to achieve the best balance. One books travel tickets and accommodations, while the other gives laughter by dancing on the street with locals at the travel destination. This is the very 'principle of the N pole and S pole of a magnet strongly attracting'.

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